Kids and What I Learned Today – Our People

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Stephanie

January 15, 2014

12 thoughts on “Kids and What I Learned Today – Our People

  1. You are “Looking to God” sweetheart, IF you keep your eyes UP, HE will keep your feet forward! Of course, as your children grow, they will gain a “mind of their own” & ALL you do/did will be just a memory. BUT, if they are raised in a loving, God fearing home, your chances are THAT much better. None of us are guaranteed anything as we raise our children but for now, Stephanie, you ARE doing the right thing by letting God lead your house & home, you, your marriage AND the rearing of those Beautiful Little Gifts you were given by Him!! He wont let you screw this up!!

  2. The truth is that in marriage with kids it is very helpful to put the marriage before the kids. I’m not talking about ignoring kids G-d forbid. But, when kids see us making our marriages the most secure, they feel secure. Our kids should definitely be put before most other things, but not before our marriagaes.

    1. Hey Faigie,
      I agree with you 100%, today my parents celebrate their 47th wedding anniversary, Ben’s parents are celebrating their 46th year; we have great leaders to show us and we know what we need to do and how to guide our children.
      Sunday I found out that my husband, against all of our wishes, his included, is having to go away for work for 9 months, I don’t know where and I don’t know if he’ll be back. Most days I’m crying or hiding my tears. These days, Ben and I are thinking of our kids and what I have to sacrifice while he is away and what he is unable to give while he is away. So for now, I have to give double what I have – I don’t know if I can do it, but I have no choice but to try. I pray for your support, I pray for help, I pray….

  3. I hope whatever your dealing with gets better. I can feel your pain and frustration from your words. Your kids will adapt and be stronger for all of this. It sounds like you and your husband are doing what you must right now. I’ll keep you in my prayers.
    You’re right we do have to put our husbands and kids first in life, but sometimes putting them first means sacrificing for everyone involved. I have faith that you and him will find a way to make it happen.

  4. It is amazing how much we learn from the stressful times. I have always counted my kids as lucky to have grandparents (and an aunt) nearby with whom they can stay. The kids have stayed with them often (sometimes because we couldn’t be there due to our daughters illness during her 8 weeks of life, and at other times for purely fun reasons). Because of this, our kids think of my parents and sister as their “people.”

    It sounds like you are dealing with a lot, but count yourself lucky that your kids have “people” other than you who show them love and accept them into their home. It may be stressful now, but in the long run, your kids will be better for it.

    You are in my thoughts!

  5. I love this :) It’s so true and a good reminder to put our little ones first – every time. I have been guilty of putting my husband first quite a few times and I hope to severely limit that in the future. Thanks for the reminder :)

    1. Hey Gabrielle,

      As a wife and mother it’s a delicate balance…Ben is my partner. I feel like we are in a two legged race, tied together and when one falls the other falls, only together and in insynch can we run. I haven’t posted this yet, he is going to be deployed, so I’m thinking a lot of what it will be like to run without my other leg (so to speak) :) and how I’m going to carry these kids without my other half. I’m still tearing up thinking about all of this. I’m coming to terms, but I can’t imagine what it’s going to be like and how my kids will handle it – we haven’t told them yet….

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