20 Things You Probably Didn't Know About Me

I am a blogger, I am a mother of two kids, one boy and one girl, I married my College Sweetheart (he'd get a kick out of that statement. :) ). But You probably knew all of that and you can read more about how Ben and I met, my profession and education on my Meet the Grinning Idiot page.  Once of the things I've struggled with is exposing too much about myself because well, it's odd for this one-sided type of conversation.  But my hope is, if you see me open up, you'll also open up with me, leave comments, be part of this blog. So here goes:

1. I love to draw/paint/read...essentially do anything relaxing; I can literally sit on the back porch with my feet up and watch and listen to the wind in the trees.

My husband asked me if I'd go skydiving for his 40th birthday, I looked at him like he was insane.  The conversation went something like this:
Me: Why would I jump out of a plane?
Ben: For the excitement!  Doesn't that just seem fun?
Me: No...look, here is the way I see it: I have a very stressful job, the kids stress me out, trying to keep everything up, dinner ready etc., by the time I look for recreation I don't want anything "exciting".  If you want to jump out of a plane, I'll be on the ground video taping, holding the insurance policy...and no I'm not giving what could result in death as a birthday present, I love you and need you too much.
He grinned and said ok.

2. I have no patience for stupid. So that's a bit strong right?  When I say something the first time and there's a question, I'm glad to restate to ensure clarity.  But if I have to say the same thing 3 or more times, you are going to annoy me because your stupid and wasting my time.  Just saying :)


3. I'm becoming addicted to Candy Crush.  Have you played this game?  I'm not one to play games on my iPad, it's generally used for reading, surfing, Facebook, Pinterest and Instagram...but one day my Mom got me looking at it and it falls in line with a low stress activity where I have to try to develop a strategy and think 3 to 4 moves ahead.  And when I don't win, I have to keep going. I'm only on level 46 but I can't believe how addicting it is...I'm thinking about playing right now!

{I continued writing the next morning, because I played candy crush}:) told ya...

4. My favorite morning ritual.  Sitting on the back porch with a cup of coffee and talking with Ben.

5. My kids are driving me nuts.  So I love my kids, I'll say that first, but - they are 4 and 7 and I'd like to forbid them from speaking to each other for the next 10 years.  She's pushing his buttons, he's pushing her buttons and they are fighting/whining/crying 10 out of 14 hours a day (thank God they are good sleepers!).  I think the pictures that you see of them are some of the 4 hours.  But again, I love them and I'm thankful for the pictures I take of them during the good times to remind me, it's not all bad...{sigh}.

6. I like Chardonnay.  I didn't used to, something changed in my taste buds after Tyler was born...maybe the recognition that'd I need something with more of a kick than wine coolers...hm - there's a thought...:)

7. My favorite appetizer is ham, slathered with cream cheese with an olive rolled up in it...I even painted a painting with these little beauties. BEST APPETIZER EVER!!!  I got Ben hooked on them on our first anniversary and I then showed him how to make them.  He is now the designated ham,olive rollup maker - give a man praise and he'll do the same thing forever. :)

8. Serious now: I'm not always happy.  I'm a Type A personality, I'm not a perfectionist, but I expect the best from myself, and others, which means I'm often disappointed.  I've learned over the years, that not everyone has the same high expectations for themselves and this is when I remember the phrase "Keep Calm and Carry On", because the only person that I can control is myself and how I react/act to others.  Wisdom and patience comes with age.

9. Speaking of age, I've had 3 appointments to get Botox and chickened out all 3 times because of needles.  I haven't had a shot that wasn't pregnancy or knock-me-out related since college where they required you to get the tetanus or whatever shot to get you into college. Yep, I play the odds every year with the flu and so far I'm winning!  I hate needles!!!!

10. Sometimes I just lay on the floor.  I'm not sure if this is weird or not, but sometimes I feel like laying on the ground literally grounds me, it makes me calm.  I lay there for a few minutes, staring at the ceiling, listen to the clock until I can feel myself calm and my back relax, my mind relax, and about the time I am completely relaxed Sophie is standing next to me/on me or over me.  And then I get up.

11. I want to be more. I think this may go with Type A: I'm good at my job; I'm a good, caring mom; I'm a decent artist; I'm a good wife.  But a lot of times I feel I'm not doing enough, that there is more for me than what I'm doing right now, that I was meant for more. I'm not going to pull some "Eat, Pray, Love" thing, I have everything I've ever dreamed for myself it's just that I feel like there is more. I don't know what it is, so I'm just trying to be the best that I can so when more comes I'm ready...but I can feel that it will be there. Does that make sense?

12. I don't forget.  You know the saying "forgive and forget"...Yeah, I'll forgive but I never forget.  I also believe in "fool me once, shame on you; fool me twice, shame on me."  I think this goes back to the Type A thing too. I relive events in my head to find where things went amiss so I can see the pattern in the future and look for ways that I could have prevented it.  I literally agonize. loose sleep, journal etc.,  over things that go awry to determine how I could have handled it differently, was I blind to it, etc.  So the next time, I'll recognize what had happened before, modify my behavior and see the events unfold.  I think revisiting history and evaluating the patterns, finding the source of the underlying issue helps me in business a lot, but in my personal life, I'm pretty sure it gets old.

13. I've seen a ghost. So being Type A, organized, believer in God is it shocking that I've actually seen a ghost?  To this day, I wish I would've asked him a question, any question - but instead, I held my breath, I backed out the door and went over to my friend Alison's house.  I saw him twice, he felt friendly, it was just weird actually seeing one...but the ones in the basement of that house were disturbed. I never saw the disturbed ones, but I ran up the stairs afraid to look back.  So yes, I believe in ghosts and I'd love the opportunity to see one again.  I haven't seen one since I was 16 and because of this experience I won't buy a, as I term it, "used house".  I only live in brand new houses where I know what happened on the land before and I still smudge the house when we move in.

14. Smudge I'm part native american, like 1/18th - very small part. But like I said, about history and patterns, I think there is more to the world than what we can see (and for a Type A, that's a weird statement in it's self)...  Smudge is a native american tradition to ward off or remove bad energy/spirits.  Negativity is something that is easily brought into the home, where it festers, can get stuck and grow.

I probably have the biggest personality in our house and if I'm negative, I can turn everyone negative; when I wake up in a bad mood, I can change everyone else's mood.  I think Em is second biggest personality (maybe it's a girl thing, I don't know).  But when I finally notice that we are all negative, I'll walk around the house when no one is there (because I feel weird about it) with dried Sage and a Bible and fan the smoke with the Bible and pray.  Then air out the house.  I've been doing it for 18 years and it seems to change things...so who am I to argue with history?

15.  I believe in guardian angels and voices subconsciously guiding me.  A few days before I graduated with my MBA from Auburn, I believe that my Mammaw, who I never met, watched out for me in a car accident.

It was a sunny day in May, I had just finished my last final that I knew I did well on, I had a job secured with IBM, I had just picked out a new lipstick for my graduation day, and was driving back to the townhouse, the air was on, I was smiling because my future was ahead and I couldn't wait. And I felt a tickle on my neck and felt like I should roll down the window and enjoy the moment, the freedom.  Had I not rolled it down a couple of streets before I was hit by a teenage girl who ran the stop sign I would have had glass shards in my face or worse.  My car was totaled.  I've never told anyone that....

16. I accidentally sent out the post before it was ready.  oops...I make mistakes... :)

17.  This is probably the hardest post I've ever written.  A majority of the time, my posts are about things to do, my kids or products.  Writing about myself is just hard...

18. I won Nationals in Country Western Dancing  in 3 divisions when I was in high school and I'd love to get back into that kind of dancing.  Right now I'm a Zumba certified instructor and occasionally teach (I'm a sub) and then dance about in my house while making dinner. :)

19. My favorite movie of all time is  the Princess Bride - I have almost every single line memorized.  Inconceivable! :)

20. I'd like to be fashionable/trendy but I don't want to put the time and money into it that it would take and generally I'm about a season behind.  I think the boot over the pant leg thing has been happening for about the last 3 years and I'm just now finally getting into that trend.  I never did the skinny jeans, I still think most people look like the bottom half of ice-cream cones (oh, and I'm a bit judgmental) , and I never will.  I'm starting to get into the costume jewelry. Before all I'd wear were real and simple, like my wedding ring and band, cross necklace and simple earrings - I'm branching out, but I still only wear one ring.

Well that's enough of me, I'm tired of talking about me: If you shared one thing about yourself nobody knew about, what would be the #1 thing?

P.S. Thank you to Nina Says, for the post idea and letting me snag it - this was a hard post to write!!

Stephanie Weaver

Grinning Like An Idiot: Create your Happiness. I'm a stay-at-home mom who doesn't 'stay' very well. I like to provide everyone with resources and ideas for crafts, painting and DIY!